most manners are meaningful diversions, formulaic conventions of politeness, of (yes, i am sure you did not mean to hurt anyone's feelings, and this is my abtruse and polite way of mentioning that you probably did hurt them regardless) honestly felt sentiments.
despite the way "they" eat dying-almost-all-gone whales all the time, the japanese have a cultural way of dispelling 91% of the BS i seem to encounter daily.
anthropology has the way to go.
*like: you're a f*ing slut (vocationally speaking; your artwork is crap; i hate your tedious lies; etc.)
**look for lost-drafts #2 around april 29.